Top 5 Most Ridiculous Things People Say & Do

Top 5 Most Ridiculous Things People Say & Do

are u serious?

I absolutely believe that most people have the best of intentions.  But let’s face reality; it can be extremely difficult to find the “right” thing to say at times.  So I really have tried not to judge anyone for anything they might have said OR didn’t say in terms of Alan’s cancer.

With that said, I must share some of the most ridiculous but well-intended things people have said to me over the course of the past year.

“Top 5 Most Ridiculous Things People Say & Do…”

#5.   Asking “How are YOU doing”? (with a OMG, poor-you, “mookie” face)  It makes me want to cry just thinking about this.

#4.  Looking at my ring finger mid-conversation to see if I’m still wearing my wedding band.  I wear Alan’s wedding ring around my neck, close to my heart.  But it’s too hard for me to wear my wedding ring.  With that said,  I couldn’t take take the obvious ‘ ring-finger stares’, so I went out and bought myself a nice ring to wear on my left ring finger… and people can assume whatever they want.

#3.  Trying to engage me in a conversation about dating and second marriages.  Who says I’m even interested in this?  My closest friends don’t even talk about this with me. Again well-intended but candidly, it’s inappropriate and uncomfortable.

#2.   Telling me that “G-d needs Alan more than we do.”  Really?! Could someone actually believe that? Because the G-d I know and love is not selfish.  I don’t believe G-d needed Alan more than his wife and 3 young children. The G-d I know is loving & compassionate & wants only good things for people.  Some people even said this while Alan was still alive.  

#1.   And the all time most ridiculous thing someone said to me was “Everything happens for a reason.”  Really?! Did you actually just tell me that my 47 year old husband died for a reason?  Are you saying that 3 innocent children are going to grow up without their incredible father for a reason?  What could that reason be? 

Tomorrow I’ll post the “Top 5 Most AMAZING Things People Say & Do” 😉


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